Quote from: jeffs55 on January 16, 2016, 11:25:39 PM
I would not send a break down of your costs again. The buyer does not want to hear your problems and it makes you look bad.
Oh, I don't think it makes me "look bad" (and I'm too old to care much, anyway) I made it very clear to the buyer that it wasn't his fault and not his responsibility to fix or even worry about. And I wished him good luck with the machine and reminded him again of the valuable resources of this forum and his almost-neighbor, Steve (he lives in Parma). I saw the breakdown more as a warning or caution about the ever-increasing costs of selling on eBay and the ridiculous inaccuracy of its shipping calculators (in this case, 50% low)
QuoteI would however, just out of spite, block that bidder/ buyer so that he can never take advantage of you again.
I don't think the guy took advantage of me; I think eBay, PayPal & (maybe, depending upon whether they set up the embedded calculator) UPS took advantage of me.
They buyer's poor behavior, IMHO, was lack of communication. I see more and more of this lack of courtesy and, frankly, common sense, as the years and decades go by. It is at its very worst among millennials (wherever, exactly they fit), who tend to be totally unable to pull their attention away from their gadgets to focus on a human, four feet away, attempting to interact with them. Yesterday, I dealt with a 20-something retail clerk who just couldn't "stay with me" because he was constantly checking his smart phone and texting quick replies. He never excused himself; he was clearly engaged in what, for him and his contemporaries, is normal behavior. The purchase in question amounted to about $5K.
I'm afraid we've created a virtual world and raised at least one generation of people who live there more than they do in the world of rocks and trees, bricks and mortar, other humans in the flesh. And we're rapidly raising yet another. My wife teaches elementary school (thankfully, not for much longer). She tells me that the kids are reluctant to go outside to play, or for almost any other reason. They beg to be allowed to stay inside and play computer games at recess.
As for eBay itself, the reason I have so few transactions under my current account is that I closed my first one several years ago, after doing thousands of deals, almost since the beginning of the site. It was becoming increasingly clear that it was no accident that they were treating small sellers more badly every few months; it's part and parcel of a deliberate strategy. Since the rude interruption to my sharpening plans arose, I thought I'd try once again -- I had already opened a new account and done a few small deals to get a feel for the new environment. Never again.
~Doug